Mindset

You Can Have It If You Want It- Making Choices.

You can have or be anything you want in this world.

You just have to be prepared to sacrifice in order to have it.

It sounds dramatic but it’s true. When I say sacrifice I don’t mean sacrificing a small goat under a full moon. I mean you have to be prepared to make space in your life in order to have or achieve something you really want. For example, if you decided right now that you want to be a doctor, you could do it! But you would have to sacrifice money, may be down size where you are living, cut the holidays abroad and pay tuition fees. You would have to sacrifice time, in lectures, 7 years studying and may be precious time with the family. But you could have it. If you wanted it. This applies to fitness and weight loss.

If you want to lose weight, be physically fit, tone up or build muscle. You have to make a choice to make it a priority. Simple!

When you realise you have a choice, you should let this empower you! Some people fear this and stay in denial. You may believe that it is all out of your hands but it is in nobody else’s hands but yours.

Sometimes the first step is making time and before you say you don’t have any… you do. Decide exactly what you are going to do and then choose a time in which you can do it. For example you are going to go swimming, gym or even as simple as I am going to do 20 push ups in the living room, then factor in when you can do this. It sounds unbelievably simple but what I mean about choosing when, I mean you need to be realistic and you need to make it a priority. I know that for example, for me, after work, commuting home, doing the food shopping and then food prep, I will probably be quite tired. So it makes sense for me to go to bed early, in order to get up and hit the gym before work. Don’t get me wrong, leg day at 5:30am isn’t everyone’s cup of tea. For me this is realistic. The reason I say “for me” is because everyone is different! Some people prefer to train after a late shift, say at 10 or 11pm…If I trained at 10pm you would most likely find me curled up on the bench under my gym towel!

By failing to prepare, you are preparing to fail.

One of the biggest factors I believe that can accelerate results, is preparation. Two most important things I like to keep prepped is my work out gear and my food. I keep my gym wear, trainers and my bag packed in the same place to save time. This means when I am ready to go there is no faffing around or hesitation. Believe it or not I have in the past convinced myself getting ready for the gym, finding a matching pair of gym socks and packing my bag is just far too much effort. Now I have no excuse! I also would massively recommend preparing your meals and snacks in advance. I tend to do this on a Sunday afternoon. If I don’t have time on a Sunday, I will prepare 2 or 3 days worth of meals in one big batch and get them in to tubs ready for the fridge. This saves time, money, hassle and needless trips to the vending machines! (I will be writing more in a future blog posts on how to bulk food prep!)

Another key part of this process is preparing yourself that it may not go the way you expect. Weight loss, or muscle growth is going to be different for everyone. I understand that one of the reasons some people are scared to lose weight is what your body may look like after. Loose skin, seeing the stretch marks, saggy bits. I follow a guy called John David Glaude (aka Obese_to_Beast) on social media who lost 170lbs! He has basked in the glory of his loose skin and allowed other people to do the same. One change for me personally, that in theory I really should have seen coming but didn’t, was the loss of my boobs. Don’t get me wrong I have never been particularly busty. But I lost a stone and half and I felt as if all of that was from my chest! But I have learned to love my body, for what it is capable of and how well it adapts to all I throw at it. I want to do the best I can to make to make my body healthier, faster and stronger.

If you are reading this believing you aren’t where you want to be. It’s because you chose not to be. Don’t despair at this thought, embrace it, because it means you can still do something about it. You make the decisions that can lead you to what you really want. Don’t get me wrong if you have suffered a health set back this may have not been in your control, but if you want to lose weight and you grab a sugar filled coke at lunch over a bottle of water. That is a choice. A small choice but something that can have a huge impact.

Like I have touched upon in previous post, if you want this, have it. Do it. Take a step towards it. Doesn’t have to be a leap, but on the flip side why not jump in! You deserve it. Don’t believe for a second that you can’t do it. No matter age, gender, height or weight, you can start this journey to make you and your body a priority in your life.

Me

Taylor @tgmfitnesselite

 

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Fitness

Finding “The One” – Gym Buddy Pro’s and Con’s

How often have we heard or may be even said ourselves “I’d go to the gym if I had someone to go with”. Finding the perfect gym buddy can be just as hard as finding Mr Right! But how important is it to have a gym buddy. I have both trained solo and with regular gym buddies. So here is my list of pro’s and con’s.

Pro’s

  • Motivation. Having a gym buddy can give you the motivation you need to kick start your fitness. Finding a fitness friend can give you that added push to get your but into that aerobics class when you are just not feeling it.
  • Accountability. Your gym buddy can make you accountable. It’s harder to blow off the gym if you know your friend is there waiting for you! You won’t just be making excuses to yourself, your gym buddy will also be making you accountable for your choices.
  • Healthy competition. There is nothing wrong with a little healthy competition. Pushing each other that little bit harder each time can help you to fulfil your own potential.
  • Form. Your gym buddy can also be there to check your form. When I say form I mean the way in which you perform an exercise. This can include posture, the speed and force in which you execute the exercise, spine alignment and footing. Poor form can mean not isolating the correct muscles you want to exercise during the movement and importantly can result in injury.
  • Spotting. There is nothing fun about a dumbbell to the face or face planting the mirror falling forward when squatting. Luckily having a gym buddy there can minimise the risk of you hurting yourself or getting in to a sticky situation when you are completing difficult movements or using heavy weights.
  • Encouragement. That’s an easier one. Having your own personal cheerleader when you are working hard can push, motivate and help you keep a positive mental attitude when your energy and drive is beginning to falter.
  • Support. Gym buddies can be a great source of support in and outside of the gym. If you are having a hard time with progress, form and motivation, a gym buddy can be there to keep you going and someone to relate too and confide in.
  • Fresh ideas. For me one of the best part of having a gym buddy is having the opportunity to share new ideas with someone. From new routines, exercises and recipes to protein powders, bloggers, fitness inspiration and places to get new gym wear. Keeping it fresh can keep it fun!

But having a gym buddy can also have its downfalls.

Con’s

  • Dependency. It can become easy to grow dependant on your gym buddy. You may rely on them and not yourself for motivation. This can then potentially cause setbacks if for some reason your gym buddy can’t come to the gym. It is important to keep focused on why you want this and ensure you keep that motivation with or without your gym buddy.
  • Distraction. It can be very easy to become distracted by a gym buddy when working out. Conversation can flow and your focus can wane. Talks of the nightmare incident at work and plans for the weekend can take precedence and sometimes steer you off track.
  • Unhealthy comparisons. Sometimes it can be easy to fall into the trap of negatively comparing yourself to your gym buddy. Your gym buddy may be seeing quicker progress or may be lifting heavier than you. It can be hard to remember that everyone is different. Your gym buddy may have different nutrition, a more physically demanding job, faster metabolism, completely different body composition and structure. Competition can be helpful in training but remember this journey is about you and you only.
  • Different motivations and goals. Like I said previously, finding the perfect gym buddy is like finding Mr Right or Mrs Right! If you want completely different things it just isn’t going to work. For example if you are training to see muscle tone or increase strength and your gym buddy is training solely for marathon. Your training plan will be quite different and this can make it difficult to train together.
  • Commitment. For me this is a clincher. Do you and your gym buddy have the same levels of commitment? If you are ready to dedicate yourself and work as hard as you can, training with someone who is joining the gym for a bit of fun and for a light hobby can have a negative impact on potentially both your motivation and progress. On the flip side, if you are going to the gym for a little you time and some fun, a hard core gym buddy may be too full on and put you off training all together!

If you want to find a gym buddy, don’t be afraid to put yourself out there. If you find someone who shares the same interests, make it known. Pretty much all of the fitness fanatics I know love to share tips and ideas with other people and are always happy to help!

I personally like the best of both worlds. I try to switch it up. I train with my mother, with a PT, with my partner and by myself. I learn and take something away with me from all of these sessions. Inspiration, new techniques, motivation and confidence.

In the beginning I was reluctant to train by myself. I was self-conscious and wasn’t sure about what I was doing. My gym buddies helped me grow in confidence but I soon learned that I couldn’t always rely on only training when my gym buddies where available! I decided to try going by solo now and again. Going by myself made my confidence grow tenfold. I no longer cared if anyone was watching or if the girl next to me had a flatter tummy or if someone else in the gym was better than me because it didn’t matter. They may be stronger than me, more muscular or toned but no one knows the battles it takes for you to be there in the gym..apart from you.

That takes real strength.

Me

Taylor @tgmfitnesselite

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